Passion for youth / Your not alone in this: 2013

Hey what's up people! Today, I'm going to blog about

''PARENTS & CHILDREN'S RELATIONSHIP''

Hope you readers are doing fine out there!

Before we go further, I'll be dividing this topic into

3 different parts.

The basic elements required in a family

The problems that family usually faced

Solutions

So for the start, let's go through the everyday life a family would have to face.

Please do take note that all this are based on what I've learnt and observed throughout my 21 years of life.

If there's any different opinions, please feel free to comment below or pm me personally at my Facebook. Thanks dear readers :)

PART 1

First of all, when a married couple has settled down, they would definitely want to start a family of their own by having at least 1 child first right?

And then the moment when their first child is born, they not only would feel happy and contented but at the same time,

they would be more than overwhelmed to have their child held closely in their arms, and that their first born baby means the whole world to them.

Everyone wishes to have a 'perfect family', but is there really such things as ''PERFECT family''?

Well, in my personal opinion, based on what I have learnt throughout my whole 21 years of life, seeing other friends of mine and outsider's life, no matter how much

we longed for a perfect family, there is just no such thing as ''PERFECT family'' BUT

here it goes...

This picture says it all. As a family, we cannot expect perfections from one another. God created us DIFFERENTLY in his own image.

We're all human beings with different attitudes, personalities, characteristics.

That's why we're unique because no one can be exactly 100% like us. Therefore, in life, there's a thing called

( TWO - way communication )

( Understanding )

( Spending time together )

( Give & take )

Last but not least, to me personally, I find this very important because parents nowadays hardly do so which is that your children's opinion are very important too.

Although you may think that they're still so young, but regardless of anything, as a parent, I know you want whats best for your children but hey, hearing out their opinions wont kill your time right?

In fact, not only you'll know what amazing children they've grown up to be but at the same time, you'll get to understand them more. Know them deeper and in what aspects they're coming from.

And yes of course, they will still respect you as their parent no matter what but again, no parents is perfect right?

At times, as we get older, we do need some opinions & thoughts from our children too. And they came from you. So be proud and appreciate them for who they've grown up to be.

Why two - way communication, understanding one another, spending time & give and take plays very important roles in a family?

Well, if you would come to think about it, usually arguments that starts in a family is because one of them is really stubborn while another holds the ego that he/she is right in everything and they cannot seem to give in and take in that particular argument and both shows their tempers.

There are many other ways that an argument could start off to so that's one of the example I'm giving out.

Besides all that, when a parents holds their authority towards their children.

For example, EVERYTHING they say has to be right

and they will not give a minute to hear out to their children's opinion, then where's the proper

TWO - WAY communication in a family then?

To dear parents out there, I'm not pointing fingers at anybody's family but I do hope as parents, you know where I'm coming from.

At times, you just got to let your ego down in some situations. Knowing that no parents are perfect. We learn from our own mistakes and improve from there, to be a better parent. Isn't that way better?

Compared to arguing about a particular matter, knowing that whatever your children said does make sense but simply because of your ego, you choose not to listen and eventually, cold war starts for a couple of days or even weeks..

Why make this happen when as a family, you can actually solve it in just one night?

Therefore, hearing out your children's opinion is really important, and then there comes

understanding and spending time together along with give & take situation.

When families starts to really take time and spend it together,

you'll be able to know more about what your children is going through in their daily growin up life,

and then it comes with understanding the problems or peer - pressure that they're facing nowadays in the society because a lot has changed in the many past years and

then comes with give & take attitude and last but not least, proper communication.

If this 5 basic elements can actually be practised in a family's everyday life, I can assure that there will be lesser arguements and more of understanding one another in different parts of your own family issues.

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I SINCERELY APPRECIATE IT.

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Good afternoon people! Well, here I am going to blog about what I did yesterday. :)

But first of all...

Hope you guys did have a great day!

So this is basically me. The owner of this blog. Nice to meet you readers out there yo! :)

So basically I was out with my sister Licole. She's one amazing young SPM girl. I love her attitude and I am really happy to have her in my life.. And all this time, I did want a sister so I thank God for giving me her (Licole) as my younger sister. Here's a photo of me and her in her house.

#take 1 ;)

#take 2 :)

Don't we look so happy? Hahahaha. Well, after chilling at her house, off we go to Gurney Plaza so since

I'm a P H O T O A D D I C T , yeah! I definitely did take some selfie too :P

#take 1

#take 2. Just in case you guys are wondering why are this both photos with different outfits, that is because I was trying on my sister's outfit to see which suits me better for the raining cold day and so I finally decided to take the white singlet with a blue jacket. Thanks to my sister who lend me her outfit ;)

And now, off we go to Gurney Plaza! :D

The moment we reached Gurney Plaza, I went for a fringe hair cut because my fringe was basically too long that it is over my own chin as you all can see in the above picture and so I told the hair stylist that I want it to be around my nose length and down onwards so basically the result happens to be like this...

I was like WOW! Because I finally felt much better about it and most importantly, I love the way I look now although it's just the change of my fringe.

Like what people always say ''Sometimes small little changes can make a big impact to the particular matter ;)

After my new fringe hair cut, off we go to the new gym in Gurney Plaza! My sister (Licole) was really excited about it because it is her first time there too and really, the place is nice with the forever loud beat music. It increases the atmosphere there and it's just so nice to chill and basically have some relaxation over there. Here's a photo of Licole preparing for her gym. :)

All ready and pumped up for her work out. *winks*

And this is her personally gym wrist band which enables her to scan during her coming in, going out and as well as the lock for her own locker.

And yeah! As usual, its a must for us both to have a memory together in the gym's toilet. Hahahaha. We're saying Sup people!

And so after she went for her gym, I went to MPH to get some readings and that is when I found this awesome book. Based on true story by a Pastor named Matthew Cork & Kenneth Kemp. Here's how the book looks like

I love the book! But sadly I can't buy it because its too expensive for me but of course when ever I've got the chance to go MPH, I'll definitely read the book more.

The back page of the book. So sorry if the picture is slightly blurr. I'll be going to MPH to take another clearer look of the back page :)

And of course again, as usual. A selfie of me with the book! ;)

To me, the book is really interesting because it is mainly about this Pastor. He knows that God is calling him to reach out to all this poor countries.. Where many young little kids suffer and so on..

So he wants to change and impact their lives. God has put that spirit and passion in him. Although I didn't get to finish the book, but I did read some and it really touches me. And the best part that catches me about the book is their main head title,

WHY NOT TODAY?

Nowadays, there are so so many people out there who NEEDS help. We over here are actually counted really fortunate to have a comfortable place to stay, food to eat, shopping malls to hang out & release stress at and even beautiful sites to looked at. But what about those unfortunate people out there?

Everyday, their actually surviving and fighting for their daily meal, to look for a protected shelter and many more. They have tons of worries everyday. So why not we as the fortunate ones try our best to think positively with our own lives? Compared to the unfortunate people, although they feel like giving up and they find no more meaning into living their lives, BUT the problem is THEY NEVER GIVE UP.

They just continue to live and have faith that somehow, somewhere, a kind person would actually help them. I'm not saying that go on, help those people even if you cant do so but hey, you could at least do yourself a favor in believing in yourself & having faith that you can have a better life right? :)

Everyone is on this earth for a purpose. No one was an accident to be put here by God. He created all of us for a purpose and all we just gotta do is to talk to God, our Heavenly Father.

Okay.. I know some of you readers may not be a Christian and please don't get me wrong.

I do respect everyone's religion but because I myself am a Christian so I'm just writing based on my own personal experience, not pointing at anyone or anybody's religion so yea ;)

And basically, all I'm trying to say is when ever you feel down, hopeless, lonely, your nobody,

THINK AGAIN because you DEFINITELY are somebody in this world and your really precious in God's eyes.

He created you and he loves you unconditionally.

Just speak to him anytime you want to. Treat him as your father, best friend, close friend. Its a communication of relationship between you and Him :)

Well, I know I've said a lot about this so I do hope that this words do give you your own self motivation. Really, learn to appreciate and cherished your own life because

''When ever you take a breath,

it just means someone is ending theirs.''

So why not just cherish every single moment of it when you can? :)

Okay, for now, I'll stop talking about the book for a moment and so lets get back to my day :D. After spending some time in MPH, I went to see my younger brother with his friends awhile in Kenny Rogers and then after they went off, I head back to the gym and waited for my sister to end her workouts. Here's a photo of me and her in the gym's launch =D

Oh. Looking at her tired face? Aha. Do not judge her by her tired face because she was actually really energetic and hyper after that. :P

After that, we head out for makan with my brother and one of his friend and then we finally head home.

Oh well, I really do hope you readers enjoy my blog and this is my second time writing here after exploring a lot last night and please do feel free to pm me at my Facebook for those who has it regarding your own personal opinions towards my blog. Really need you guys opinion about it or do leave a comment right below my blog too.

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