Are we in a relationship or competition?

So really people, whats your definition of being in a relationship nowadays? 

- It is just to show the society that your wanted by someone? 
- To feel special in someone's life?
- To feel like your someone's priority?
- To avoid the feeling of emptiness/loneliness? 
- To update your Facebook, Insta, Wechat everyday to show people how much your being loved by your other half? 

''RELATIONSHIP OR COMPETITION''

I personally feel that nowadays relationships are like a ''competition'' among many group of friends, just to have that one person to be always by your side no matter whatsoever ups and downs hit on you, to feel that your not alone in this, to have some physical affections from one another because obviously there's no doubt hugs, kisses, intimacy are so exciting and you feel really loved from there but asked yourself people, is it just a temporarily love? 

And to some, it is just for fame, sex & wealth? Is it because your lack of attention from your family and so you seek it from outsiders? Or your taking a person as a rebound in your life? Some are even just using their partner's fame to be noticeable. There are so many side factors yet to be considered in a relationship as both genders are two different creatures.

I asked many friends of mine. Both boys and girls. It is really simple of what they really seek from a relationship. 

GUYS seek for loyalty, genuine love, kindness, care and a girlfriend who can always stand by his side to help him thru all those storms that he has to go through. Feel comfortable and can trust her.

 Looks is just a small bonus point. But the heart is everything. (These are the answers I got from guys whom I've asked)

GIRLS seek for loyalty, protection, to feel special in only her man's eyes, a man who is always one step ahead of her. Lead & help guide them in life. Help them with their self-confidence, always reminding them of how much they mean to you despite all the other better girls out there. Can be trusted, reliable. 

 Really pay attention to them when they're sharing about their problems in life & not by just being there physically but your mind isn't there anymore. Sense of belonging, their love being treasured by their man. The effort they put in dressing up for hours are being noticed & then complimented by their man.

( all these may seemed alot but trust me guys, when you really love that particular girl, to you, all this comes naturally. it isn't a request anymore but is about your willingness to it)

And so, guys & girls, after reading what I've wrote about the desires of both genders which I've asked so far in my circle of friends & some other hi bye people cause I'm alone in this, do you guys realized that there is nothing such as the word '' BEAUTY '', '' FAME '', '' WEALTH '' , '' SEX '' ? 

Then you guys will be questioning yourself, why the girl I've dated only want to hop in big cars? Why do they dress up so ''materialistic'' and only wants to go to high class restaurants? Why do they put tons of makeup knowingly that guys already said beauty is just a small bonus point while the heart is everything else? Why girls are dating wealthier guys or direct jump into bed with guys that has his fame in public? So so many tons of questions from different guys out there.

Then girls, some of you asked yourself if guys really only seek for all that I've mentioned above, why the guys I've met so far only wants sex from me and they seek for pretty, hot girls? Why they dont appreciate my genuine care & love which I've invested so much in them and get shits back in return? 

BELIEVE it or no, firstly, 

                                   it is the influenced of social medias that tries to show about how beauty is the perfection of everything. Advertisement that has becoming more sex appeal, everything in life is about those FOUR that I've mentioned which is being shown out in our very own eyes, repeatedly over & over again, and no offense, being neglected by parents is ONE of the very BIG MAJOR roles too. 

                                So when children are being neglected by parents, not being educated properly about all those FOUR, thats when they seek for ''guidance & teaching'' which they think is right because parents are too busy with the very hectic working reality life that they spend so little time at home knowing their children more. 

So from one basic foundation, it leads to another and it keeps on going repeatedly. So to young generation nowadays, social medias is their life. 

It connects and relate to their feelings, to what they want to feed themselves with. They want a role model to look up to. They want to fit in the society and feel apart of it. And thats how relationship nowadays are becoming so unreal. 

because everyone is being so exposed to the social medias so they're not satisfied with so many things around them & are always craving for more & more. Some ended up having a few partners because of insecurities, and they cant stick to only ONE person. They want to try different varieties and thats how other gets hurt and changed. We want to explore more of our options and yet at the same time, we want to keep that particular person who loves us dearly while continue hunting for others.

Its more like a competition now, whose sweeter on Valentine's day. Whose boyfriend/girlfriend is hotter, wealthier, has everything that the world is describing as ''perfection''. We're all blinded by all these because of a few simple things in life that we really want....

LOVE

APPRECIATED

TREASURED

NOTICEABLE

FEEL SPECIAL

CARE  TRUST

SENSE OF BELONGING

        

And because of all these simple basic that we find it so hard to get these days because everyone's mind is being deceived by the ''perfection'' of what social medias has to offer, so we tend to go the wrong way, such as seeking attention by using sex, cheating & lying to get to the top where tons of money is there, trying to go for makeups and plastic surgery cause deep down, you just wanna look as good as possible to attract people to notice you and then comes with acceptance from the society

 ''feel special, sense of belonging, appreciated, treasured, noticeable''

but then asked yourself again, whats life to you when you only live ONCE for it? 

It is so worth it to keep on striving for ''perfection'' when you actually know no one is perfect and that includes you and the more you fight for all this, it'll eventually drained you out emotionally and mentally? And as you aged, you look back and realized you've wasted so much time to achieve all these when you could actually in return live a life which is way happier than all these and you feel that you've not wasted a single bit of it? 

Different people has their own views of wanting to live their life but again, ask yourself, are you really living that life for yourself? Or is it to please the society or your family's expectations and to bring up your family's name and to make yourself look good/proud when facing your relatives?

                                 All these things may seemed so small now but trust me, when it adds up, not only it counts so much and it is that one thing which molds your life and then you can start asking yourself, is this really the path I wanted for myself or was it what my family or people around me wanted me to be? And then was I just trying to lift up to their expectations or my own goals in life? 

Something for you people to think about.

Ps : I know there are tons of people being trapped in sex addiction, drugs, or being mistreated by your other half and yet, you cant seemed to let him/her go. Your mentally & emotionally trapped in their ''games''. You feel that their the only one whom you want in your life and without them, your lost, you feel hopeless, lost of sense of direction or even identity and yet you dont know who to turned to, I'm not saying I'm all that pro but again, 

I KNOW HOW IT FEELS. So to those who finally feels that they want to approach me regarding their troubled feelings, please feel free to do so. I ain't perfect as well but I'm doing my best to try to help people around me and yes, your P&C are safe with me. I'll usually delete unwanted messages either on FB or messages in my phone for safety precautions. 

I'll be going into sensitive issues but yet so common on the internet, sex and also other different areas. Thanks for your time to read my blog. If you were to get my Facebook through my blog please let me know your my reader, or else, I will not approve but only reply. For safety precautions. Thanks for understanding. 

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We are so much more than just our surface

I'm very sure most of you have watched this movie right? 

If no, then I'm about to share my thoughts about this movie and why I find it so inspiring and speaks right into our very being.

To those who loves dancing very much, doesn't matter free style, or the ones that you have the name for it, but bottom line, you know how it feels when you start dancing. Your whole being starts to enjoy the beat or music and your body starts naturally moving and your mind sets right into that very moment and you enjoy it. 

STEP UP REVOLUTION is such an inspiring movie to me because :

1. You see different people from different cultures, races and all ages coming together and dance as ONE. 

2. Their TEAMWORK!! Omg. I just cant stop watching this movie over & over again. It's so so powerful, the smiles on their faces, the teamwork that they put together and each of them has their talents in dancing doesn't matter is it Bboy-ing or other styles. It is just simply amazing. 

3. They are trying to show people ''Hey! Lets also focus on people WITH talents." Not everything is just about expanding your business and all about money. We YOUTH has so much more to offer. We are way better than what you just see from our ''surface''. Cause lets just face the reality, our first impressions aren't always the real us.

So, when I watched this movie many times over and over again, I really felt touched by their natural talents, by how their dancing moves adds on the excitement to the environment, how they make people's day just by their dancing and along with some music that blends in. 


And the sentences that caught my attention from Sean to Emily, 

Sean : Its like us saying ''listen up, we exist'' 

And another of his voice for the narrator part 

               ''Cause truth is everyone has a voice''

Just love the music along with the way they dance, full of emotions and pretty sexy as well with their creativity and talents. Its like you can literally immersed yourself in their atmosphere while their dancing. 

                                                  

                                                   

''Isn't it time to fight for what you want? ''

                                  

So I'm very sure that this 3 small video clips will be able to sum up why I personally love watching this movie so much and I really cant get tired of it. It makes me feel alive again ;) 

And this movie also shows how much ''WE'', the younger generations wants to be heard as well. Although we may not be good in certain stuff like the business matters, strategy marketing skills etc, but hey, NONE of us is perfect. So why not choose to look at our different talents, help us to grow from there and look at the brighter side of the other talents that we can offer? 

Whenever I watch this movie, I feel the POWERFUL TEAMWORK in each and everyone of them. And once they're finished with it, there's this great sense of achievement that can be felt so strongly and everyone is so happy with the outcome. It is a feeling that cannot be seen but only felt deep down in us despite the smiles you can see on everyone's faces. 

So all I'm saying doesn't matter what your talent is because it could be singing, dancing, cooking, writing stories, speaking in public, create something new out of something old, really good at studying or knowing animals stuff and the list goes on. ALL these are the different talents that you should not give up on but instead, you should continue brushing up on it and slowly let the society see you for who you really are.

And to those viewers, if you dont really like what they're doing, its alright. Not everyone has to like everyone's talents/interest but please dont put in those critics such as ''so lame, useless, good for nothing etc''. Why bring those people down when they are trying to put in the effort to do what they love and they try to have the confidence to show it to the society? Unless you wanna tell them on how they can improve in certain aspects then by all means go ahead. *spread more love, less hate* and if you think you cant give any positive comments or comments about ideas on how to improve themselves, just ignore viewing them. Its better than to leave a comment that would lead to an argument etc. Waste the both of your time right? 

For those who revealed their talents in many different ways, please be prepared to receive all kinds of comment on how to improve or whats wrong with it etc. As you know, there's so many people with different opinions and point of view. So just be open to listen but if you think you dont wanna take their advice then its completely fine. At least their putting effort or showing interest in what you love doing aite? :)  

Thank you for taking your time to read it.

Yours sincerely, Emma.

            ''ONE person alone cannot do it. 

We need more voices, we need TEAMWORK.

The society that we live in today

Hey dear readers.

Today, I'm gonna blog about the most recent new movie

''CHAPPIE''.

Why this movie?

Simply because it reflects on US, THE SOCIETY THAT WE LIVE IN NOW.

For those who have watched this movie, you guys will know what I mean. For those who has not, I strongly encouraged you guys to watch it. I'm not trying to promote this movie but I personally feel that this movie can be a great transparent example of the environment/world/society we all are struggling to live in now.

This is one of the sentences that ''Chappie'' said to his Creator that caught my attention :

 'I dont wanna die, I want to live'.

While the ''Dad's'' sentences to Chappie : 'If you wanna survive, you must fight'.

In very basic summary, this movie is about a newborn robot that has emotions and can think for itself. Its a very innocent object that seeks for love, care, attention and to be guided, taught along its way of maturing itself. ''Chappie'' is exactly like us all. 

We're all once upon a time innocent human beings until as we grew up, knew the harsh truth about our damn lives and trying to survive in this cruel and unfair world. We were young, too innocent & naive, so people bully us just like how the people threw stuff on ''Chappie" when it was left alone on the streets 

I wanted to cry so badly in the cinema when I saw this part. It was really hurtful. Chappie begged not to be hurt. It was afraid, felt insecure, just wanted to feel the sense of belonging but they had to do this to him. And then Thank God there's gps installed in his system and so he managed to find his own way back to where his ''Mom'' is and that he wants to be with dearly. 

Although it's just a robot, but because it has its own emotions and a mind of its own, therefore, the ''Mom'' felt a connection with Chappie and she loves Chappie so much. Even started to treat Chappie like her own child. Read bedtime stories and gave Chappie a tight hug before it sleeps. It is really touching when you see the society ''perceived'' this kinda people as ''bad guys'' but they actually do have a loving heart as well. They are actually good people but the society are too judgmental and they always only observed things from the ''surface'' and spread rumors so fast. 

Watching this movie really touched my heart. It is so true. Whatever your kids are exposed to, they'll tend to follow because every child wants a role model to look up to, admire, follow. Although its just a movie that Chappie watches cartoon and trying to follow their actions or when the Creator gave Chappie its own book to read, Chappie was more than happy and excited to even know that it owns a book. We were all exactly like Chappie when we were young. Just that we were too young to look into the mirror and to realized what we were like back then, and then shit happens, we get betrayed, soft-hearted people taken for granted, people deceiving us because of greed towards money, power, fame, jealousy cause other people's work are more noticeable than yours and so much more side factors. 

Until this very day, when his ''Dad'' actually tell him ''if you wanna live, you must fight''

At first, I really dislike his ''Dad'' because he just wanted to use Chappie to help them get more money and so that he could pay off his debts to the other people but in the very end, he, the Creator and Chappie combined forces and help one another and ended up, it is one of the police in there who is the bad guy just because he wanted his very own ''robot'' to be used in the police firm and he got jealous with his colleague's work. 

So again, WHY I'm blogging about this? 

I just want you readers to think deep. 

In whatever situation your in, I know there are tons of shits happening in your life right now. Everyday people talking about life is so meaningless & feels lifeless. Or it is impossible to live in this world if all you have is sincerity and honesty along with a straight forward attitude. I feel you people. Too innocent & naive, people take you for granted, cheat your money. Use you for their personal benefits and when you got nothing left to offer them, they dump you. 

And therefore, some people turn so cold, becoming the best liars, cheaters and the list goes on cause as you grow up, life has taught you that in order to ''survive'', it has gotta be that way & when you actually follow that way, things work out for you. 

I'm not encouraging anyone to continue doing this if you are already doing it but I just wanna say that each and everyone of us has something that we wanna fight for, we're all struggling to live as well. 

We all have our own problems to face with everyday. So why not spread more love than hatred? 

It is very normal to feel jealous over someone's beauty, wealth, success etc but is it really worth it to try to bring them down and then indirectly, to make yourself feel good? Why not admire them instead and use them as a motivational tool to push yourself further? Nothing in this world has to be always about the negativity. 

Why not give more encouragement, support, love & care? 

And to those who RECEIVES all that why not show some appreciation, gratitude? Say Thank you, Please or I'm sorry when you actually do something wrong? All this small little things will make a BIG difference to the society down the road. What more for our future generations. 

And I would really love to hear some feedback about this post? To understand different people's point of view and to talk about this. I believe many of you out there has something or tons to say but you guys just couldn't be bothered anymore or some are too shy, dare not speak out or some are afraid to be judged for their opinion and so now, I'm here to say that I'm none of those. To be able to received some feedback would mean a lot to me. 

Thank you. Yours sincerely, Emma. 

What about me?

People change. Whether is it for the better or worst. Who knows.

So who am I?

- Just a normal girl that feels for the younger generations

I have TWO main goal which I wanna fulfill which is for myself  (ACTRESS)  and the goal which will never end until the day I leave this earth,  (HELPING THE SOCIETY)

I'm also a girl who is in love with photography too but as my side hobby

What do I really wanna do in life?

- I wanna chase my acting dreams which I have no idea whether it'll come to pass or no (still trying NOT to give up, trying to be tough)

- I wanna create a platform for girls to come out from their fears & nightmares and to let them know their not alone in whatever their facing in life. Such as being dumped after sex, betrayed by friends because of a guy, being used as a benefit tool in your friendship, lack of self - confidence when it comes to outer appearances, the urge of you wanting to have plastic surgery, sexually abused, trying to fit into a group that you dont feel comfortable with, feels like ending your life because it is so meaningless and the list goes on.  *your not alone in this*

To all those who have asked me why so passionate for the young generations.

Why wanna help people so much?

Why wanna try to understand their life problems, family background and lots more.

- This is a very long explanation that I'll write in another post but in short, I know how those unfortunate people feel and I will wanna do my best to help them in the many years down the road. 

And lastly, to those who hardly knows me but think you know me. 

I'm just going be blunt & straight forward. Sorry in advanced for any vulgarities. 

I'm still human, plus with tons of deep emotions. 

So basically, I'm just a simple girl from Penang who wanna be an actress so badly. Talks really a lot. Wants to help the society in the sense of insecurities, lack of self - confidence, betrayed, hurt and lots more. Basically it has EVERYTHING to do with feelings which cannot be seen but only felt. 

To girls out there, no matter who you are, please believe me when I say I KNOW how it feels to be betrayed, jealousy, insecurities, being cheated, being lied at, feeling left out / abandoned. And the list goes on.

I'm not a sifu here but all I'm saying is I know and understand how you feel and your NOT in this alone and IF any of you would really wanna know me, add me up on Facebook by clicking that Fb button in my blog but please do tell me you found me through my blog, if not, I wont approved. So sorry. 

Thanks for your time. Take care my dear readers. 

Sincerely, Emma. 

Just felt like blogging about this. 

What's our life for? Is it just to follow the cycle which is studying, graduating, finding a job just for the sake of money and then fall in love with the right soul-mate, have kids, be a good parent to them, watch them grow up & eventually you've done your part in life and so at the right time, you'll leave the world peacefully?

And the whole cycle repeats itself for your kids and the next generation. Or is there something more to all this?? Just that most of us are too comfortable with our comfort-zone that we are afraid to step out and try new things?

As for what I am certain of, deep down our hearts...

Without a PURPOSE in life, trust me, the feeling is awful. Not only you'll feel so empty, lifeless and worst, you'll feel that your life is so meaningless. As if you just gotta live for the sake of living your life. Without any goals, aim and target...

Its also true that most of us do not know our purpose in life. For example, we're confused, lost, indecisive. We dont know what to do after SPM and of course most parents will encourage you to further studies, go to college, get a paper cert so that you'll have a brighter future. Yeah, I dont deny that but how come most of those degree students or higher level still ended up being so lifeless and down when they started working? 

This is where it all comes in. Most of us nowadays tend to find jobs with higher pay but environmental wise? Not so good plus working late and all and for what? For your own good, your future or to please your boss and your customers/client? 

We all know we only got ONE life to live. So why not use this ONE life for us? To make us happy and not regretting what we should have done in our past.. 

For those who already knows what they want to do with their life, great! I'm happy for you. Keep it up and keep fighting for your future.. 

but as for those who doesn't know yet, ask yourself what you love to do? What's your passion? Slowly give yourself more exposure, meet new people, try new things & eventually, you'll know what you like & dislike then you can start narrowing down your options.

 With a PURPOSE in life, you'll feel pumped up. Ready to work and go extra mile to invest in what you really love. & not blindly doing something you don't love but just the sake of earning higher income. You'll end up miserable. 

I once drove around in Penang island without any destination, I felt like a lost person and the feeling was so empty compared to driving with a destination, you'll feel alive and just wanna reach there as soon as possible. 

So find the purpose in your life with your passion or interest in it and you will feel different from there. No one will really know what you want in life except for you yourself..

 Its really better to find out your purpose then just to blindly work for the sake of money.. and then ended up, you feeling your life is meaningless. Dont waste your life just like that. You can do something much greater with your life. 

''Make yourself proud with the life that your living''

All the best in it! 

Love, Emma

A final summary...

Hi readers! 

Time flies pretty fast huh? 

In just a blink of an eye, we're all gonna say 

So well....

Some of you may ask yourself

While some that are still studying, your only target for now is to complete you studies

 then graduate & once again, to find a job, a career path in your life and as for those working adults, you'll always strive to work harder but has your pay increased? It is really enough for you to survive in this generation nowadays?

 Is it worth while to invest your time, drained up all your energy and making effort in something that you know your not really happy with? Many many times now, most people tend to loose their directions doesn't matter their working or no. 

Working adults tend to work until 

While primary, secondary up to college and universities tend to face ALOT of 

People always say 

But no matter how much people say that, what are we really doing? 

Are we listening to all those negativity around us such as...

or are we really doing what we damn want in our lives??

I personally believe that all the different things we go through in our life journey is something significant. It makes us who we are today. And therefore, let's not compare our life journey with other people's life. 

We're all different humans with different personalities, mindset and definitely background but hey, that's what makes us unique. That is why people always say to be yourself cause there's only ONE you in the world. There's no one out there who can exactly be like you 100%. 

So all I'm saying is that as the years passes by, be a better YOU. Our age are just numbers. What's most important is our 

JOURNEY... 

Every year contains the same thing, 12 months, all the different festivals ups & downs and then again end of the year!

So really, for those who are actually adventures, loves different routine everyday of their lives, loves to try out something new, DONT be afraid to do so.. 

You only live ONCE. 

Make it count. Every single time of yours is precious. You can never have your time back. 

So yeah! If you feel that your life now is so dull-boring, lifeless and so on, make a brave step by doing something different. 

There maybe ALOT of ups and downs in this year, but life still goes on.. BE TOUGH, BE STRONG, LOVE YOURSELF MORE

Don't ever let anyone pull you down. Its your life, you make your choice. 

Stop thinking so much what if I do this or that, what might happen?? Or what will people think about me if I do this? Sometimes, its just best to ignore what everyone thinks about you especially when you know your doing the right thing so just live your life. Be happy.

Make this NEW YEAR a different year. 

Set a goal, aim, target for yourself. 

Kick out the old habits, keep the good ones and try having new good habits.

Learn from your past mistakes, do better in the future. 

Life's always never perfect & doesn't go the way we want it to be so lets live to what we can! 

No one is perfect so therefore, please DO NOT strive for PERFECTIONS BUT strive to be the best of YOU! 

and so coming to the end....

 I would like to wish you readers

Ps : If any of you new readers would like to contact me, just feel free to click on the FB icon on your right or you may add me on

Wechat "pearlishocean" 

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So sorry. Just taking steps of precautions.

Lastly, please do feel free to view my other posts and drop a comment below so that I would know your thoughts & opinions regarding my blog? ;) 

Thanks readers! 

EMMA

Take time to breathe, mind your own business & just have fun!

  Hey people! 

      I know its been really long since I last updated my blog.  

Well,I know that I'm supposed to be blogging about ''Relationship'' but I choose to pause on that awhile and come to this topic first. 

For those faithful readers, 

thank you so so much for taking your precious time to read it. 

I sincerely appreciate it. 

As for this topic, it clearly says it all, TAKE YOUR TIME TO BREATHE and.... 

Why I'm blogging about this? 

I think its pretty obvious. Just take a look at our surroundings right now.. What's happpening to our so so ''judgemental society''? There so many people out there, they just cant seemed to keep their mouth shut especially when they DONT KNOW YOU! Gosh. 

Dont you think it'll be a way better world to live in when you just care about your own life? I'm not asking you to be an anti-social fella but hello? Just mind your own business when you've got nothing ''good'' to talk about others especially when its ALL RUMOURS. 

Even you yourself wont like it if other people do that unto you, so why do you want to do it unto others while you dont want others to do otherwise to you? 

Sometimes, when you feel so bored/ envy about others, just take time to BREATHE.. Before you even talk about them, just ask yourself how would you feel if your in their shoes? & then just mind your own business and have fun with the people around you.. Your family, friends & loved ones. 

Seriously, its really important to have some time to breathe, look into the blank sky 

and just HAVE FUN! 

So why bother putting effort in talking bad about another person just because your jealous of what they have? And as for those who are actually the ''victim'', think it in the other way round.. They're just jealous of what you got. You have what they cant have and they cannot stand it to the extend that they just gotta b*tch about you. So this is when you just gotta be like 

B*TCH     PUUUHHHLEAASSSEEEE

Some girls envy your hot body, but so what? You worked out everyday. You earned it. 

Just do whatever you want as long as it isn't illegal. 

Life's too short, unexpected & unpredictable so... why not try 

living a happy, non- stressful life instead?

''Can't we girls have fun without being judged?''

Dont care what others think about you. Dress however you want as long as you DO feel comfortable with it, take as many selfies as you want and post it up if you wish to as long as you know there's a respect for yourself.. 

Just be who you really are as long as your happy and you know what your doing is good enough. Dont allow other people's opinions to control your freedom of life man. Although different people have their own opinions, just remember, you've got your own too. 

DO what you want, DO what you love.

Love, Emma.