Friendship?

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Okay. So... As I was going through my Facebook timeline today, I happened to see many many statuses about friendships

 and so I asked myself why not blog about it then? 

Well, what is friendship really about?

 I know different people have their own different opinion about friendship or how they deal stuff with their friends but come on, at the end, all of us gotta admit 

ONE thing, 

which is bottom line, 

- friends who are there for us through our ups and downs

- friends that will not take us for granted

 - to feel appreciated and cherished by our friends 

- and of course one hand doesn't clap right? 

So despite of anyone's opinion on friendship, seriously.. I personally feel that nowadays there's just too many people who actually take their friends for granted. Sometimes I really wonder. Why are we humans so opposite?? 

We tend to care for friends who DOESNT priortized us in their life, who just treats us as their options while friends who actually puts us on the top list of their friendship, we tend to push them away and then here we go complaining that we have no close friends who actually really cares about us. 

Okay, fine. I get it. We humans aren't perfect. We do mistakes all the time and at times, we just really cant tell whose worth keeping and whose not. 

We're like in dilemma in our own friendships. Even sometimes, we tend to seek for other people's point of view or advice to know which friend is worth to keep cause we ourselves cant see it. 

But well, lets just be really honest.. Why do humans need friends?? Can you imagine you being in a cave ALONE, although you can survive because there's animals for you to hunt down or 

water to drink, you WILL still go nuts. Why?? 

Simply because you haven't talked to another human being for ages! You would be like totally insane to the extend you creating a few dolls for yourself and simply giving them your favourite names and try talking to them. So what does this shows?? 

That we humans needs to communicate constantly with people. You might be wondering how is this related to my topic ''friendship'' right? Well, let me tell you, because we dont know how it exactly feels the feeling of loosing our close friends, or obviously we're not stuck in the jungle, so we tend to take our friends for granted. I mean like hello?

 Yes, you need them and they're there for you. But they're also humans with feelings right? You dont just dump them anytime you want man. Who you think you are? Your not their boss, not blood related, so why do you think you have the rights to treat your friends like that? 

When humans totally have no one to talk to and are stuck in the jungle, I'm very sure even with ONE human that they found, they would be crazily happy to have them in their lives. 

So all I'm saying is that seriously, friendship really isn't meant to be taken for granted. When you have NO friends with you at all, you'll know the feeling of being alone/left out, you'll feel hurt or depression and trust me, it is an awful feeling. So when you got real genuine friends that are there for you no matter what, take time to appreciate them, cherished them. 

As much effort they are putting in you both friendship, put in the same as well. I'm not saying that you gotta be 100% like her/him but just do it your own way. 

Different people shows different types of appreciation and care for their friends. As long as you show it, your close friend will know it as they may have known you for years and can read you like a book. 

Some don't tell how they really feel about you cause either their fedup, afraid that they might offend your feelings or the worst scenario is that they're about to give up on you and trust me, this last sentence is the worst of all. 

Dont make your friends loose hope in you. You may get other new friends but no one can replace that friend of yours because everyone is different. 

Dont make that joyful day into becoming the day of your regrets and telling yourself shit I regretted loosing her/him cause by then its too late. If your lucky enough, you'll get a second chance but hey, not everyone gets that second chance.

In conclusion, friendship is a beautiful thing, so dont go and spoil it in your own ways. 

- Friends are not just to benefit you in your lives (they're not a rubbish bin. Take then throw) 

- Real friends cannot be bought with $$

- Friends are not people who you throw your anger on (they have feelings too, hello!)

- Friends are not there to please you in your life 24/7 (yes, of course they will try their best to make you happy cause their your close friends but they do not live to please you)

- Appreciate the time they choose to spent it with you (because thats a part of their living life as they cant get back that time)

 And readers, for those who actually take time to read all that I'm writing, yes, feel free to give your opinions on my blog. 

You can pm me on Facebook if you feel that you dont want your feedback to be public but please only one thing I asked, I'm not here to find fault with anyone nor am I pointing fingers at anyone.

 I'm just here to let out all my thoughts and to tell about what I've seen/observed so peace ok? :) 

Thanks for taking your precious time to read :)

- EMMA -